Changing nursery, the hardest decision I’ve ever madeDecember 20, 2009 at 1:07 pm | Posted in Baby Development | 7 Comments
Tags: Children's nurseries, nursery care, sending a child to nursery, working mums
So, we finally took the plunge, after much debate – the bear will be starting a new nursery at the beginning of February.
It’s been a decision that’s taken months to come to, and with all the tragic news in the press this year about various nursery staff, we’ve felt lower than low about coming to trust new nursery staff with our baby boy.
The bear started nursery when he was five and a half months and we instantly took to his key worker, a lady in her early 40’s with a Mary Poppins type warmth about her. The stress of the decision then was sending such a tiny baby, almost unable to sit up without cushions, to nursery so I could return to work.
Being self employed meant that I could only expect clients to wait a short time for me to return to my desk; I was lucky that my biggest client waited at all.
So, that was all before the terrible headlines that hit this summer, tiny children, who’s parents thought they were in safe hands… I don’t think there’s point dwelling, but my heart continues to go out to those poor families.
On the point of why we’re moving the bear. I feel selfish in saying that it’s a number of reasons that will make my life easier. The traffic to our current nursery is shocking, it’s over an hour round trip. The nursery doesn’t provide food, drinks, nappies or wipes and is expensive – we pay for the great service. The new nursery does everything, with yummy home made nutritious meals for lunch and dinner. They also offer extended hours for free; as early as 7.30am and as late at 6.30pm.
So that’s it in a nutshell. I want someone else to do the the hard work so that I don’t have to on the days that I need to work.
Am I an awful mother? Am I sacrificing the happiness of my child for my own sake?
Don’t get me wrong, we’ve read every single last word of the Ofsted report and they have a glowing review. We know friends of friends who rave about the place, and when we visited, lots of shiny happy children were prancing about the place.
On top of that, they not only provide you with a diary of activities, they also review your child’s development, commenting on their strengths and areas that may need additional attention which I think is really valuable.
So, has anyone else been in this position? How did you feel? How did you decide who best to care for your precious children?
It is keeping me awake at night! I might just see Santa arrive in one of my late night moments of awakeness.